Single Wives

 There’s been an uptake in women being quite vocal about the new term “Single Wives”. I’d like to dive into manner and give my insight and opinion. I first would like to include the vows we all stated on that special day when we made a commitment to our loves. 

I, ___, take thee, ___ to be my wedding husband/wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part, according to God's holy ordinance; and thereto I pledge myself to you."

Ok so there it is unless you wrote your own vows this is pretty much what you pledged in front of witnesses that you would do. Even if you wrote your own vows I bet you didn’t include all those things that I feel should be talked about before you make this lifelong commitment. For example who’s going to get up with the baby, change diapers, pay what bills, car pool, fix dinner, take off for doctors appointments, take the dog to the vet etc. One might say why would I include that in my vows. In my personal opinion the only thing you can hold against your spouse is the pledge that they made on your special day. So now that I got that out the way let’s talk about single wives. I’ve read and listened to many social media posts of women that finally got fed up and left their husbands because they were pretty much doing everything and got more help through joint custody once the divorce was settled. One might say that’s a pretty selfish move to break up an entire family because she couldn’t get the husband to  pitch in. But isn’t it just as selfish for a man to come home and sit on his hind parts for hours? Wait for dinner to get done eat and then park right back in front of the TV. There’s no clear role on who should do what in my opinion. I believe that everyone should pitch in on everything if you have children who are old enough to do chores they should help. If someone is off they should do pickups from school or bus stops. One would say well if the mom doesn’t work shouldn’t she do everything she has time? I agree on some level but even still being a full time mom still calls for time off and assistance. Moms who work and do what they can to be a homemakers don’t get enough credit. It is shear abuse to know your wife works cooks cleans makes doctors appointments pays all the bills even if it’s just scheduling there’s mental load in that, do the laundry, taxes go to school events and help with homework. I’m tired from typing all of that. I just can’t believe a man would go to work and come home and sit down and expect to not do nothing. Then once’s she’s done with all of that expect to give her best performance in the bedroom. Some would say he never saw the divorce coming. But can this be held against our spouses if it wasn’t part of the vows? I don’t know but. I will say this should be discussed on the second or third date. Find out the role your spouses parents play at home. Did mom work? Did dad pitch in? This will tell you a lot about what their ecxpectations will be. Speak openly and candidly about how you will need to be supported when the kiddos come. I would like to end this with saying to whoever the woman was that thought it would be a good idea for women to work outside the home just look what you did….